Message #4601 - STRESS_MGMT 
   Date: 04-24-94 06:49
   From: Bob Johnstone
     To: Jim Dawson
Subject:: GOOD AIM!
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 > I have problems with exposure time when people are on my left side.  
 > Ifsomeone approaches me too quickly or startles me I can have a very
 > severe bout of anxiety sometimes with a chest crunching attack at 4 
 > AM 2 mornings later.

 When we were born, we had no experience.  But we saw others walking around
us.  As our muscles got stronger, one day we decided to stand like they did. 
Now, it can be dangerous to stand in some places, like next to stairs when
you dont have much control over muscles, so as we attempted to stand, parents
and others made movements which sometimes startled us to protect us from
falling.  They also said things at the same time, but we did NOT understand
what they said, so they could not "scare" us into stopping our efforts to
stand.
 
 One day we reached out and took hold of something, we pulled or stuggled and
managed to lift ourselves onto our own two feet and felt very good about
that. We kept lifting or pulling ourselves up, and our muscles became
stronger.  Soon we decided to take a step holding on with our left or right
hand and in spite of the fact that sometimes we got our legs crossed and fell
or the pain from doing so, we persisted and kept lifting or pulling ourselves
onto our own two feet.  In spite of the fact that others kept on trying to
scare us with their words, because we could not understand them we kept
walking near places they thought were dangerous.

 Eventually we learned to walk, then even to run, and NO one was able to stop
us from doing so, we lifted ourselves up, we pulled ourselves up, and we
stood on our own two feet.
 
 Now, we really dont know everything we did or used in our brain to give us
the confidence to stand up and walk or run.  We really dont know what gave us
the courage to learn to roller skate or ride a bicycle and many of us even
ride motorcycles in SPITE of how dangerous others may try to convince us they
are.  WE JUST STAND ON OUR OWN TWO FEET, and continue living in spite of how
dangerous others believe the world might be.

 > Very frustrating when an attractive lady pulls around
 > a corner and says "HI!!!". My reaction is as if she stabbed me in 
 > the chest.

 Now, we can go into a restful state, and think about those pleasant or
restful and happy experiences when we went for a walk thru the park or along
a beach.  We can think of the times that we were ANXIOUS when learning to
roller skate or ride a bicycle and REMEMBER that the more experience we got
the more CONFIDENT WE FELT whenever we were doing things some even thought
were dangerous.  We can learn HOW to USE those memories, to teach us to feel
MUCH MORE CONFIDENT than we have ever been allowed to believe, whenever
something triggers feelings of anxiety.  We can create a conditioned reflex,
so that when someone triggers those feelings, ALL we need to do is press the
thumb and finger on our left hand, and ALLOW THE SUBCONSCIOUS to deal with
the feelings we are telling it to deal with or TO CREATE the COMFORTABLE OR
CONFIDENT FEELINGS within 3-5 minutes.

 NOW, this is NOT like waving a magic wand, waving a magic wand would get rid
of the feelings instantly.  BUT, my clients for years tell me it is the
closest thing to waving a magic wand they every experienced.  For they GET
RID OF FEELINGS in MINUTES, which normally would have taken hours in the
past.  It does not take 14 years to make Mud Pies, and the subconscious
controls all feelings, so you have to leave it up to the subconscious to DO
SO and stop attempting to consciously control the feelings.  When you do you
are doomed to failure, for it requires many things to happen to control
feelings, there may even be 75 or more muscles experiencing tension. 
Progressive Relaxation is a conscious attempt to change that, but we can only
think of 6-9 things at one time.  STOP trying to relax, and PROGRAM the
subconscious to begin creating relaxation by doing nothing more than PRESSING
YOUR LEFT THUMB AND FINGER.

 > By the time I can recouperate she has freiked out and gone away.

Continue building the conditioned reflex, make it as strong as it can
possibly be by practicing daily for 10 minutes, AND pressing you thumb and
finger as you feel anxious.  It will not work as well the first day, but
within a week it will help depending upon the amount of time the individual
practiced.  You may think of it as a mathmatical problem.....

     STRESS divided by the number of times you practice recalling pleasant
memories, times the number of times you listen to a CR tape = freedom from
stress.  NOW, if one person practices 10 minutes per day, they get X results. 
If another practices TWICE they get 2 times X results.  If another practices
for 3 times, they make three times the progress.  IF one persons problems
cause THREE TIMES THE STRESS that they cause another, but that person
practices THREE times each day and the other only practices ONCE, they make
the SAME rate of progress......
 
     BUT, what tends to happen, is the person who is worse off is more
motivated, so they practice more times per day even if the other person has
more time.  Some will even skip days, while the motivated individual will
practice several times per day.  SO, it is entirely possible for the
motivated individual to make MORE RAPID PROGRESS than those with fewer
problems.....

     THINK ABOUT THE POSSIBILITIES, AND
     KEEP INTEGRATING SIMPLE SOLUTIONS!

 > Non-the-less inside I am screaming at that psychologist from TM that
 > behaved in such a nonbecoming comunicative manner of that of a
 > reasonable psychologist.

 STOP screaming at the psychologist, it is an exercise in futility, and only
delays your progress.  Practice, practice, PRACTICE, and I promise you
results.  I was a physically, emotionally, and sexually abused child.  Then I
went into the army at 17, and in Korea was in the 5th Regimental Combat Team,
the unit which held the record for the MOST consecutive days online in combat
during the Korean War. (298 of them.)  We served with every Division in
Korea, when they had their worst experiences, including the 1st Marines.  We
went to the Yalu, within 8 miles, closer than ANY OTHER UNIT and captured the
first eight Chinese prisoners, notifying Intelligence that the Chinese had
crossed the river.  They did not believe us until we got the prisoners all
the way back to Japan..... so McArthers G2 could believe it.  By that time
everyone was fighting their way out.

 We lost almost as many men in Korea in THREE years, as were lost in Vietnam
in over eight years, and when we came back, no one thought we had been
fighting a war..... after all it was ONLY a police action......  BUT, I went
back after being wounded, evac'd to Japan for three weeks in the hospital. 
Even went back for a second tour with the 5th, then extended my tour by six
months......by the time I got out of there I had SEVERE post traumatic
stress, even though they did not know it or call it that then.  
 
 My problems after Korea, added to child abuse, did not help me in my first
marriage.  Then, I married a woman I had a crush on since I was eight, my
sisters best girl friend.  Three months after we married, she informed me
that she did not love me, but married me on the rebound because she "knew"
how well I treated my sisters and brothers, so figured I would treate her the
same.  I did not believe in divorce, and loved her anyway, so stayed with her
as we had 5 children in the next nine years...... Then, when I was in the
hospital due to a bad kidney from damage suffered in Korea, she ran off with
another man, taking all our posessions, and the five children DISAPPEARING
from the face of the earth as far as I was concerned.  I sold the house, used
the money to pay pvt detectives to try to find her.  They only found that
they rented a UHaul which had been driven over 600 miles and they could be
anywhere from Philly to NH or ME, advised me to give up looking.  

 This is only a BROAD OUTLINE, details of my problems could fill several
books, BUT, it was the motivation for me to search for a better way to
eliminate Post Traumatic Stress, and after 27 years of searching I had it
perfected.  CONFLICT RESOLUTION (tm) is the result of that effort and it 
WORKS FOR ALL WHO USE IT CONSISTENTLY... even for many who use it sporadicly.

 YES, I KNOW it "sounds too good to be true" but this is ONE time that
something which _sounds_ too good, is true, and those who use it prove it
daily.  As the basic instructions here are FREE, any who pick them up and use
them have NOTHING TO LOSE BUT THEIR STRESS, and a happier life in the future. 
Even in a _worst_ case scenario, like many who have used it, a set of tapes
for $37 helps change feelings faster than we have ever been allowed to
believe possible... and it does NOT take 14 years or even 3 months to feel
better.

 Practice first, IF you feel you need more help, then order the tapes.

--- FLAME v1.0
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