Msg # 6042   
Date: 10 May 94  18:19:00
From: Bob Johnstone
  To: Marliene Wolsey
Subj: RE: WORRIERS
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 > BOB could you explain what neurolinguistic's are and how it works?



  Basicly it is just a name for a very effective way of communicating with
the brain at subconscious levels.  Each person has a Visual, Auditory, and
Kinsthetic system at a conscious level, and one of them at subconscious
levels that is dominant.  They may have a different one which is dominant at
each level.

  The job of the therapist is to determine the individuals dominent system,
then to use that system in communication with them.  By doing so, they
understand the communication more completely.  So they can make much faster
progress in therapy.

  As the subconscious controls eye-movements, it is quite easy for a trained
individual to determine which system the individual has by asking questions,
and observing HOW the person moves their eyes.

  They will move up above horizontal quite obviously and to the individuals
left, and or right if they are thinking of things which happened in a visual
manner at subconscious levels.

 IF auditory, will move their eyes to the left or left and down.

 IF kinesthetic, they will move their eyes to their right or right and down.

 Learning HOW to talk to a person in their "subconscious" language is
important, many of the relationships where people say "I just cant understand
my wife, husband, sibling, et al" is caused by the differences in the way
people communicate.  My wife is dominantly visual at subconscious and
conscious levels, it is one of the reasons that she is such a great painter.
She has stronger and more vivid visual images than anyone else that I know.
While I am unconsciously auditory, and consciously kinesthetic, which is the
reason that I talk about my "feelings" so much of the time, unlike many men.
(Only 20% of all men are kinesthetic.)   Before I learned about Neuro
Linguistics, we used to have a LOT of upsetting differences and arguments
about them.  By learning this, within a short time I was able to communicate
with her more effectively, there were fewer misunderstandings, and I could
understand what she was saying, because I could translate her visual speach
into my auditory or kinesthetic language.

 Most therapists will say they are only effective with 30-40% of those they
see, this is one of the reasons.  They communicate well with those
individuals who have the same unconscious system, and not with all those who
do not.  If they happen to be visual, they are in luck for 60% are visual.
If they are auditory or kinesthetic, each of these systems are only 20% of
the population. As I had both, it made it less than ideal for me, because
like many therapists I was successful with only about 45% of my clients.
Within months of learning NLP, my success rate improved, until I could
communicate effective in all three dominent systems.

 Once I had an attorney who came for help with the bar exam, and then
continued for some time in order to learn these systems well and how to
communicate in them.  She became very good at it, and used it in her
presentations to the Jury, within a year she was winning every case that she
took, because she would make her summary 60% Visual, 20% auditory, and 20%
kinesthetic in its wording.  When questioning people on the stand, she could
get more significant information, help them to recall easier by asking
questions in their subconscious system.  Last time I talked to her, she had
only lost one case in over 18 months, and one attorney said as they were
leaving the courtroom, "I dont know what you are doing or how you do it, but
I did not prepare well for that case because I thought it was a sure win.
You are too _good_ and that is not fair."  She said, "If you dont prepare
properly, you are not _fair_ to your clients."

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